Having three little ones under 2 definitely brings on its fair share of stress.
There are times when all three of the boys are flipping out, days full of endless tantrums, grocery store trips ending in meltdowns and we are
almost never anywhere on time.
I am a control freak by nature, I love to have a plan and I prefer when we stick to that plan. I am ok with change as long as we have a back-up plan to go with it.
No matter how much of a control freak I am, or my preference for a schedule my boys beat to sound of their own drums. They could care less if mommy is a control freak or prefers a schedule and a plan, they have their own ideas of how the day should go.
This lack of control makes me stress out and over the past 21 months of being a mom I have learned that I just need to let things go. One of the ways I have been able to do that is by developing a life motto.
My motto for this phase of my life is “it is what it is”.
We are 30 minutes late to a family dinner. It is what it is, there is nothing we can do.
The boys throw a tantrum in the grocery store and start throwing food out of the cart (this actually happened! Noah threw food as Ian threw his shoes and attempted to take of his shirt).
It is what it is. We deal with it and move on, of course while laughing because that is all you can do when everyone in the store is staring at you.
Eli has a blow-out diaper and I discover that I forgot a change of clothes. It is what it is, nothing you can do now. Thank God for wipes!
When issues come up that are out of my control I simply take a deep breath, say my motto and move on.
I have come to understand that no matter how great my plans are, I am just not in control. Life moves at a crazy exciting pace that is unpredictable.
I can’t plan for everything.
I can’t control every situation.
No matter how great of a mom I am, no matter how much I plan or prepare the unexpected will happen and when it does I am prepared to roll with it.
It is what it is and life moves on.